Growing Awareness, Growing Knowing

October 16, 2018 Delia Yeager

Imagine a field, all rested and seeded.

And in this field, there are seeds of discontent, not-enough, better-than-others, and others-are-better, as well as contentment, righteousness, gratitude, allowance for all, judgement for nothing, cooperation, joy, plenty, ease, grace, thriving.

The field will grow all the seeds.

The seeds that you water and tend to, talk to, cultivate a relationship with through repeated engagement, will flourish beyond the others.

What you tend to the most is what grows the most.

If when someone judges you, you have to consider what was said, who said it, how and when they said it, you are tending the seeds of discontent, judgement, competition, righteousness and grievance.

However, if someone judges you, you are in allowance of them, their point of view and opinion, you are cultivating the seeds of allowance, non-judgment, plenty, ease and thriving.

If you have curly, black hair and someone criticizes your straight red hair, there is nothing in you to “catch” their judgement – no resonance in you, no similar thoughts or judgements that you hold as well, so the criticism blows past you, like a breeze.

However, if you have curly brown hair, and have always wished your hair was straight, you have in fact criticized your hair, judged it and your looks, so when someone says something judging your curly brown hair, you may bristle with being offended, outraged, or defensive, or you may meekly roll over in agreement.

If someone judges you, it can only affect you if you agree with the judgement. Otherwise, there is nothing in you to catch and hold the judgement.

And most of us, once we know “the answer” is to not judge ourselves, we find we judge ourselves for judging ourselves!

What if instead you cultivate allowance.

Allow as how you’ve been operating on the information you had, now you have new information, and you are curious to see how operating from the new information affects things.

Allowance, curiosity, awareness, engagement all lead to relaxed, excited adventures because you are not constantly doubting yourself and judging yourself as right and wrong, but instead you are always present and   aware – at peace, and On Your Side.

Every day, multiple times a day, stop what you are doing and ask – Am I doing my best right now?

If the answer is no, change what you are doing until the answer is Yes.

If the answer is yes, note that and keep going.

Do this multiple times a day for 2 weeks.

So if on Tuesday you’re checking in and doing your best, when you get new information on Friday, and you look back over the week, you cannot abandon, judge and beat yourself up for what you did on Tuesday because you know that on Tuesday, you were checking in and know for a fact that you were indeed doing your best.

Then you cannot feed the old habit of beating yourself up because you’ve been doing your best and your best has to be good enough.

You can’t beat yourself up AND be On Your Side.

You cannot serve two masters, just as you can’t sit on 2 horses at the same time, or drive 2 cars in 2 different directions at once.

Judging you and others is the cultural crack cocaine, or salty/sweet addiction of these days.

Cultivate being On Your Side instead.

“But, how do I made decisions of what to do or say or think, if I’m not using judgement?” you may ask.

Aha! Try this instead.

Close your eyes and take a couple of nice, deep breaths. Notice, with friendly curiosity, how your body feels from head to toe. Actually say, “Hi body! How you doing?” and notice the sensations in your body.

Now ask your body to turn up the volume so you can “hear” it, so the sensations are strong enough for you to notice.

You don’t need to judge or change any sensations, just greet and notice.

Now, say to yourself – my body likes to drink water – a couple of times, and notice what sensations of sights or sounds your body gives you in response to that.

Next say – my body likes to drink paint thinner – a couple of times and notice how your body feels with that one.

Water tends to feel light, bright, and expansive, like anything is possible! Yes!

Paint thinner tends to feel dark, heavy, and contracting, like nothing is possible -ick! No.

This is way your higher self can use the sensations of your body to give you your clear Yes and No answer to any question, circumnavigating the analyzer/brain that has all the social programming of the times cluttering things up.

Imagine that right and wrong are bastardized versions of expansive and contracting, and this way you can go for the real thing.

You make some 10,00 choices and decisions a day.

Instead of using “rational judgement,” try this instead –

“Truth, will it create and generate more for me if I say this thing to this person?” and let your body answer with light or heavy.

Or, “Truth, will it create and generate more of me if I keep my mouth shut with this person?” and let your body answer.

The more you do this with little things, the more you build the muscle and vocabulary and can get clarity with the bigger questions, any time.

This is how you navigate your life, being On Your Side, navigating with your higher self, co-operating; infinite self with your amazing body.

So much more calm, energized adventure, and a lot less tired drudging!

Your experience of life is completely based on what seeds you water, what choices you make, in the moment.

Make your life a wondrous garden. Start today.

To help find your new way, repeat this 10 X in the morning, and 10 X at bedtime for 30 days. Notice what happens.

All of life comes to me with ease and joy and glory
All of life comes to me with ease and joy and glory
All of life comes to me with ease and joy and glory
All of life comes to me with ease and joy and glory
All of life comes to me with ease and joy and glory
All of life comes to me with ease and joy and glory
All of life comes to me with ease and joy and glory
All of life comes to me with ease and joy and glory
All of life comes to me with ease and joy and glory
All of life comes to me with ease and joy and glory

 

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