Fear 360. It’s everywhere and it’s misinterpreted.
You know how it feels to be chronically misinterpreted? Exactly.
I’ve heard a lot of out of balance things about Fear this week and am inspired to clear up some pervasive misinformation about this dynamic energy.
Fear is a great energy. Fear keeps an eye on the perimeter at all times. That’s its divine job – to be aware and let the rest of the system know if there is a breech or challenge to the perimeter.
If there is a breech to the perimeter, Fear lets Anger know. Anger’s job is to re-establish or establish a boundary as needed. That’s Anger’s very useful and loving job.
Fear is the psychic, the sensitive and anger is the restorer.
When I hear, “feel the fear and do it anyway,” I cringe.
There are many times when you will want to do that, but not as I see so often, at the expense of Fear.
Listen to it, see its point of view, validate it for the truth it is conveying, and then decide what to do.
A few years ago, I arranged with the Universe to have myself kicked out of the nest of a job I wasn’t suited for.
It was a rude awakening, and an even bigger relief.
So my body-personality finally relented that maybe what I should be doing full time was what I as most guided to, trained in and loved the most – doing readings and healings professionally.
I had been doing this work for decades but “on the side.”
When I read a great little book, THE WAR OF ART, by Steven Pressfield and Shawn, I saw for the first time that I had been approaching my true work, my Energy work, as a hobby, not as a profession.
I had invested years of study, practice and experience and yet I still did not take it seriously. That all changed then.
I signed up for a training program on how to market and be in business.
Naturally they talked of the inner game and fear. They talked about gremlins and lies and how stupid or wrong the fears are.
But what really started to change things for me is when I started listening to the fears, to take them seriously.
“I’m afraid that if I am seen in the world, I’m just a bigger target and will get killed.”
“I’m afraid they will laugh at me.”
“I’m afraid if I am really myself, and they don’t like me, I’ll have nothing.”
When I fully engaged in what the fear had to say, validating it and honestly hearing, without judgement, that’s when everything started changing and improving dynamically.
I used the techniques that I now teach in the Core Spiritual Practice Training and the Spiritual Living Program, along with this new comprehension of what the fears were telling me, and everything started flowing more.
“I’m afraid I don’t know enough,” was absolutely a fair and honest assessment about being in business, not about my craft, as I had assumed before I stopped judging and not hearing my fear.
Usually fear is telling you about something you either need to get – information, support, guidance, permission, present time, or asking you, do you really want to do this thing that is remarkably similar to that other thing that did not go well before? It is a useful question, not a bulldozer mandate.
“I don’t want to be judged,” is a fair contribution. But then I heard Brene Brown talking about this from her perspective. She said to never let your actions be affected by someone who has no skin in the game. Or if someone is not doing what you are doing – stretching, growing, getting out there, if they aren’t in the game, their viewpoint is nothing you need to consider.
Besides, living by what you think they think about you gets boring after a while.
And there are fears that are coming up because they are ready to be grown out of!
A fear of crossing the street is bloody useful when you are a little kid, even if it is a fear of getting in trouble.
But as an adult, that fear is crying out to be heard, that part of you wanting to be healed by being listened to, and validated in some way, so that part of you can stop being frozen and stuck in that long ago moment.
A fear of being burned at the stake is intense and can keep you from being more boldly and directly who you really are in this lifetime. But it is a fear and a caution from another lifetime, from an even that happened to you, Infinite Being, but not this present-time body.
Listening to the fear allows it to complete its task, and releases all that stored energy to flow and reintegrate in present time.
All emotions, especially those that the culture doesn’t like, hold very valuable information and once heard they will naturally and organically move your awareness and consciousness to a higher perspective, a deeper understanding and an elevated mood. Naturally.
Fear is not False Information Appearing Real. It may not be accurate in present time, but it does come from something very real that your system wants to prevent from happening again. Validate it and point out that in present time, it is currently illegal and unlikely that you will be burned as a witch.
People might not like you, sure, but that’s not being burned at the stake. And that experience never did happen to this body, in this timeline.
Fear, anger, fury, depression – everything is divine in origin and has valid, useful information when you listen.
On the other side of shunning fear, it usually becomes Feeling Energized And Ready.
Listening, engaging in your thoughts and emotions – communicating, not falling for or suppressing any of them, is the key.
If you feel called to BE You in the world, I have The Practice for you.
Happy new week, my friend.
Be On Your Side.
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