It’s not a trick of the mind.
It is not a tweak that your analyzer can contort reality and/or your emotions into.
You don’t think your way there.
Seniority is a way of relating within yourself.
It comes from practicing – taking thoughts and actions based on – BEing On Your Side.
Your body knows the process of getting senior – you do it all the time.
Think of a time you did something for the first time.
Remember the first time you got a smart phone? (or when you changed from iPhone to Android)
It did more things than any phone you’d ever had before.
It felt awkward and clunky in your hand.
It had all those settings, all those choices to be made. Choices about things you’d never thought of before. Ring tones and alarm sounds, set up email or not? So many choices!
So much unknown demanding you make decisions and come up with answers for questions you’d never thought of before.
Really it was pretty overwhelming. So much to learn!
The smart phone was completely senior to you in that moment. It controlled you, by the questions it demanded you answer.
But you really wanted this smart phone! You really wanted to know how to work it. You really wanted to be able to use it, or at least use a few of its functions!
(Or you did not want to have to deal with the so-called-smart phone and you resisted with all your might, and made yourself crazy-tense-upset it about it all!)
Finally you read the manual, you asked friends, you spent time and energy learning how to get it do what you wanted it to.
(Life feels better when you quit resisting!)
You invested yourself in learning how to work it.
In other words, you spent your time and energy on becoming senior to your smart phone.
In time your smart phone became your best pet/friend.
It no longer ran you – you were senior to it.
You learned that you didn’t have to answer the phone just because it rang. If you were busy, you could let it go to voice mail.
You were senior to your phone and could make choices based on what was for your greater good, not just react.
You learned that while it was fun to have all those apps on your phone, most of them didn’t really contribute to your quality of life, and you just stopped using them. You gained your seniority over the apps of your phone.
Getting seniority over something goes something like this:
- I can’t
- It’s bigger than me
- I have to do what it says
- I have no choice
- It has the power
- Learning by doing – often clumsy
- Learning by doing – taking time and energy
- Learning by doing – showing up over and over again
- Learning by doing – falling down a lot, and getting back the saddle over and over again
- Learning by doing – hey, this is pretty fun!
- Learning by doing – hey, I’m getting good at this!
- Learning by doing – hey, look at what I can do with this!
- Learning by doing – hey, I can teach you how to, too!
This is the process of growing and learning and getting seniority over something.
You can get seniority over emotions, too.
But not my dictating, micro-managing, judging or shunning emotions.
Seniority over emotions comes from – listening.
Not buying into them, not ignoring them, but by listening.
Listening to your body’s emotions is not the same as being a victim to them.
Suppressing, ignoring and indulging in your body’s emotions is how to be victim to them.
Been there, done that.
Listening is how you learn.
A neurologist said that emotions are electromagnetic impulses call to action.
Okay. That is a better description than most.
Organic. Visceral. Before and underneath thoughts.
So – if emotions are an energy impulse, a call to action, let’s say we ignore it. The call goes unanswered, and the call keeps repeating until it is answered – that is its job.
Like in Start Trek IV, The Voyage Home, the beacon keeps sounding until it is answered. And, like in the movie, the emotion keeps sounding, and your resistance to it wreaking bigger and bigger havoc in every area of your life – until the emotion-call is answered.
It is simply the electromagnetic impulse doing its job until it is heard – the charge is from the resistance to the impulse!
Once it is heard, the calling can stop!
And like in the final scenes of the movie, the storm stops, the clouds part and the sun comes out – everything turns blue skies and clear sailing – and not because you thought yourself there!
Listening with curiosity, being curious what information your body is trying to convey with this emotion, being IN the conversation, is a potent way to BE On Your Side.
Once you hear the meaning of the emotion (instead of dictating to the emotion what the books and world says it means) – once you are IN relationship with yourself, you won’t be a victim to your emotions and you will begin to shorten any existing cycles of being run by your emotions – fear being the most common one.
What do you get from Seniority?
Peace of mind.
Knowing that under any and all circumstances, you are ON Your Side – that you really do have your back.
Knowing that anything you need, if you don’t already have it, you know how to get it, whatever it is.
The ability to meet life head on, with an easy calm, based on the experience of being able to trust You – Spirit and body-mind-personality working together, comfortably.
Plus, with seniority comes a huge increase in your ability to comfortable just be yourself, with your desires, appetites, joys, passions and emotions, all flowing easily and effortlessly bringing you the people, places and things that collaborate with you to create your fabulously successful (by your standards!) life.
It’s a beautiful thing, living with sprit and body in full cooperation.
It is Heaven on Earth.
© Copyright Delia Yeager, April 2015, All Rights Reserved.
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